Lack of respect for any authority serious arrogance. Many home schooled kids were taught by accommodating parents, but also parents who disparaged traditional schooling. These students thought they were “better” than the It’s the most wonderful time of the years shirt also I will do this other students in their peer group, that the other kids were subpar for having gone to traditional schools, and frankly that everything that came out of their mouths was genius. They had problems when they actually had to listen to instructors, and deal with the fact that the “holes” they claimed to find in instruction or presented material was in fact balderdash- the result of having been praised to excess during their home schooling. They have also never run across an actual expert in a field in most cases, since they didn’t have specialized instructors for their schooling, and when confronted with instructors with PhDs and reputable research to their names, still dismissed them as morons. It was almost funny to see them lose their minds when they failed their first test or didn’t get to do their work whenever they felt like it- if it weren’t so difficult to deal with. Many of these students seemed to think they should be able to structure their curriculum however they wanted, rather than actually having to learn and master the material necessary for the class. They had a harder time realizing that the skills and information in lower level college classes is necessary as a building block to the kind of information and skills that would be learned in later courses in the same subject. Social issues. Many of my home schooling students didn’t quite grasp how to interact with a group of varied peers. While some did have socialization of some type- home school associations, outside activities and such- they weren’t used to having such a diverse group of peers. They didn’t “speak the same language” as their peers, to a large extent, whether culturally or otherwise. Many of my home schooled students simply could not understand why I would not give them special exceptions over other students- why they had to finish projects by X date, why their work had to be structured in X way. They thought that they could sort of argue their way to being able to do things different than the other students. That if they just made a good enough argument, I’d let them play by different rules. Nope. The real world doesn’t work that way. Several of them had similar troubles with internships or jobs- not understanding that they had to listen to authority figures, not understanding that they couldn’t structure their position any way they wanted.
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Several did not comprehend that courses did in fact have prerequisites and yes, they had to take them and couldn’t just skip them because they wanted to or claimed to have the It’s the most wonderful time of the years shirt also I will do this skills already. Yes, courses are offered at specific times and no, I wasn’t going to change the time of the course because they thought 8:30 classes were stupid. These are also the kids that took up the most time of my office hours, because they didn’t seem to grasp that other students might need help too and it wasn’t just for them. They also had the larger tendency to think they could contact me whenever about whatever- just because they didn’t like my office hours or were used to teachers who are parents and thus around all the time. Though unfortunately in the digital age that has been spreading to all students. Can’t tell you how many kids thought texting me at 11pm was acceptable. Many of these students similarly had difficulty working under pressure, because they were used to an environment where they didn’t have so many deadlines and/or the curriculum was structured entirely around how they preferred to learn or work, or the hours they preferred to keep. Not to say that there are no advantages to home schooling (though I do not believe they compensate for the disadvantages), or that students cannot overcome these issues (many did, but it was a hard, hard adjustment with a lot of disappointments along the way), but you did ask for consequences. These are the largest I noticed as an educator. I see just as many drawbacks for children whose have a stay at home parent and never attend preschool as those who are in daycare for long hours, however. They are more prone to separation anxiety in kindergarten, and social and other anxieties in general. Such children are less independent and uncomfortable around people unlike themselves. I think their verbal skills are also more likely to be delayed. In this life decision you need to think of the well being of the parents and their marriage as well. Having summers off, I know being a stay at home parent is less stressful for the parent. However, me working helps me and my husband understand each other more. I have seen where the issue of a stay at home parent not understanding the working parent lead to divorce. Furthermore, my daughters have told me that they like me working rather than be a room parent at school.